The setting of goals and working to achieve them invariably brings all people together. And everyone knows about situations where it ends up being impossible to get what you want. The reasons for this can be attributed to bad luck, the wrong timing, or something else that gets in the way. But in fact, deep down we know the reason why something that we really want can’t be obtained. How can we make the process of goal achievement simple and enjoyable?
How to Achieve Your Goal and Not Feel Lost?
It is incorrect to assume that the reasons for achieving goals are different and unique in each particular situation. If we look closer at the regularities in our life more closely, it becomes obvious: all of our victories and all our defeats are caused by the same actions. More specifically, it is the very same attitude to our actions that leads to either our success or failure.
5 Skills to Achieve Goals
In this article, we will analyze 5 main factors to pay attention to when setting a goal, and also while you’re on the way to its realization. These 5 principles should be kept in mind when you take steps to achieve your goals. These things will determine exactly whether you receive what you want or not. The question is whether you are aware of them.
So, let’s start with the simplest but stunningly important step, the wrong approach to which stifles the goals of millions of people. You should define your goal in exact and clear terms for it to have at least some chance to become reality.
A piece of advice: the wording of absolutely any goal should fit into one simple sentence that starts with “I want…” After that beginning you can add only seven words. If you can’t define your goal in such a precise way without exceeding that number of words in the sentence, then you don’t know what you actually want.
Collect your thoughts, think it over and realize if you have a concrete idea of the result of your actions. Imagine yourself in a situation where your goal has already been attained. In your mind’s eye, look around and walk through the variant of the universe where your goal has become a reality.
Let’s say you want to buy a car. Fine, but where will you drive to? Where will you fill it up? Where will you take it for servicing? How will you change the oil and follow the maintenance schedule?
It is important not just to daydream about driving on a beautiful highway, but to really think through all the nuances and real situations that you will face when your goal is reached. It is this approach that distinguishes a goal from a dream which people often treat lightheartedly and even irresponsibly.
In the next step of our simple guide on how to set your goal in life, we will return to the way we should state our goals. Remember? We have to express our goal in one sentence, which begins with “I want…” followed by seven words or less. Now, take a few minutes pondering about the “I want” part, which is mandatory for formulation of any goal. Ask yourself two questions.
- Is it YOU who wants this? Is this desire really coming from you, from the inside, or is it imposed on you from the outside? Do not confuse a personal goal with a task from your supervisor, a friend’s request, or a desire of your loved one. All this can and should be pursued, but they are not really YOUR goals, and they are worth being treated and viewed accordingly. If a desire doesn’t come from within, but rather from outside, then it is NOT your goal. It can be achieved. But preferably after your REAL goals have already become a reality.
- Is that really something what you want? Can you describe your attitude towards this subject or event with “I want it”? If it’s not a wish of yours, but something else (I need it; I can’t live without..; I’ll never be happy if there is no…) – that’s not a goal but a need. Only a well-balanced person who has both found the right support within themselves and has been quietly been moving towards their goals will achieve them. An “I want” for such a person is motivation strong enough to jump into action. Is that how you live? Let’s move on if it is so.
When you start walking the road to your goal, you take your first steps quite confidently, but then something might go wrong. It may seem to you that you react quickly to new circumstances and change tactics, but everything starts to fall apart even more. You ask more experienced people for advice, but their advice doesn’t help, it just interferes with the situation and complicates it. These are all significant mistakes that ruin a huge number of perfect plans, hindering you from bringing them to a successful result.
Remind yourself how you stated your goal at the very first stage. Keep on reminding yourself of that. Write that statement down somewhere and ingrain it into your life. Get used to it. Now put yourself on the same track that you were on at the very beginning. The path towards achieving a goal can be quite long, and that is normal. Do not waste fuel on minor maneuvering, braking, or lane changing. If you hit a small bump on the road, you won’t even notice it. But if you try to go around each one of them, you’ll probably end up in a ditch. Keep it steady. Keep it calm.
Focusing on the Opinions of Others
The next mistake often paves the way for the one we just discussed, and is directly related to your “I want” statement. Remember that no matter how close and good the people around you are, your particular goal is not theirs, but YOURS ALONE. No one, no person will delve deep enough into it to be able to assess it adequately.
That doesn’t mean you can’t ask anyone for advice, but it is important to clearly establish some boundaries within yourself that another person should not pass in their adjustment of your goal and the ways to achieve it. It’s just yours and yours alone, and you’re not doing it to hear other people’s praise. You’re not doing it to make other people happy either. You’re only doing this because you want to. That’s enough, and that’s all it takes.
In order to achieve a long-term goal you must have clear internal reference points at all stages of its implementation. They will never let you go astray.
Lack of Faith in Your Ability to Succeed
Everything may change along the way, including the goal itself. It can be refined and shifted into something else due to new circumstances in your life. But the very thought that your goal is unattainable, the very idea that “I can’t do it” can ruin everything and leave you with no chance of success.
This principle applies equally to the achievement of your personal or business goals, no matter how much time and effort it takes to achieve them. It is up to you to decide how many steps, actions, and attempts will have to be taken. How many rises and how many falls there will be. Whether it will be a fascinating quest or a hopeless journey to nowhere. Everything will be as you determine it. And in the end you’ll have what you’ve wanted this whole time.